Life Changing

I still remember that night, Friday December 26, 2008. It was a cold winter night that my boyfriend Gary and I decided to go for a walk up the hill by our house. We had been taking short walks here and there to help me with my delivery once our baby would come. After a long walk up and down the hills we headed home looking forward to relax and watch some TV. My Friday had now been complete and i was ready to get some rest and go to bed.

The next morning around 7:30 in the morning i started to feel very uncomfortable and a little bit of pain. At this point i was in labor but did not know it. I decided to shower take a walk, but the pain would not go away. The worst part of all was that  my mother-in-law was remodeling the kitchen and there was a lot of chaos surrounding me not allowing me to relax. I then called my mom and asked to come over and bring me some tea. I really though it was just a really bad stomach ache due to something i had eaten the day before. Once my mom brought my tea, my father-in-law prepared it for me and i try to drink it. The tea did not help and i was now getting scared.

Around 10:30am i decide to call my boyfriend and i told him how i was feeling. He quickly assumed i was in labor so he left work and headed home. Both Gary and his mom arrived at home around 11am and i was in some real pain. She also assumed i was  in labor but, i was still in denial. I did not want the baby to come already since i still had a week until my due date. We were now heading to Ventura County Hospital along with my mother in law, boyfriend and his two younger brothers. 

As we were driving to Ventura from Camarillo the pain had gotten worse. Once on Mills Rd my mother in law decide to stop at KFC for everyone since they hadn't had breakfast yet. I was in such huge pain that  this had just top it off by getting me really mad. i asked to my boyfriend, “Really we had to stop?”. He replied “Just relax, were almost there”. We were now a block away from the hospital and i was relieved.

We arrived at the hospital  around 11:30am we took the elevator to the fifth floor. I was looking forward to a nice quiet room and finally some peace but, i was wrong. Instead i was immediately getting checked every five minutes and i could hear other women in giving birth and others in pain. Once i was settled i called my mom and told her i was in the hospital and in labor. The word quickly spread and now my room was filled with my in-laws and my family. I was not very happy at this point because it was not quiet and everyone was just hanging out. 

Throughout the day i was getting contractions and vomiting but, still no baby. At about 4pm i was only at about 6 centimeters dilated. It was a very slow process and very painful. At around 7:30 pm i was at  8 centimeters but my water had not been broken. The nurses decided to rupture my water at about 8pm and asked if i wanted an epidural. I quickly replied “NO”. i did not want the epidural due to what i had heard from others. I wanted tough it out and take the pain.

It was now 9 o’clock when the baby wanted to come out and i started pushing. The nurses said to me “Stop pushing, the doctor is not here yet” i replied “Its coming i cant help it”. My doctor soon arrived and right away i was giving birth. It was now 9:12pm. I had now given birth to a 7lbs 12oz 21inch healthy baby boy. The delivery room was filled with joy and some tears. I could see my mom and mother-in-law very happy and Gary waiting patiently to hold him. I was very scared to hold him immediately so i didn't. I took me a while to realize i had just given birth to my child. Our family was anxiously waiting outside to meet our son and hold him. We were both then taken to our room and everyone left since it was late. The whole night i held my son in my arms and was so happy to finally have him. 

The next morning my room was quickly filled with family and friends who brought presents for my baby. It was a morning of welcoming love and joy. Throughout the day we decided on names but still weren't very sure. Later that night we decided to name him after his dad and a name i chose, he was now Angel Adam Roman. I was very happy with my sons name and so was his dad. 

My family was now complete and so was my happiness. On that day of December 27, 2008 I had a lot of life changing experiences. He really changed my view of life and the meaning of motherhood. I will never forget how important this day was to me and my family.